In this paper a new message control method that can reduce server load and network traffic in XMPP/SIP presence service system has been proposed. This presence service system can process both XMPP(Extensible Massaging and Presence Protocol) based presence information and SIP(Session Initiation Protocol) based presence information. A new XMPP stanza architecture with added elements for presence stanza and IQ stanza has been designed, and a new presence information data processing method which can reduce size of SIP notification message and SIP PUBLISH message has been suggested. Furthermore a messages exchanging procedure that can transfer presence information between XMPP domain and SIP domain has been also suggested. The performance of the proposed system has been analysed by simulation.