The purpose of this study is to try a dialogue between Kohut’s self psychology as a personality theory and Hoekema’s Christian human understanding, to examine similarity and difference between them, to find out self’s psychology’s contribution and limitation to a Christian view, and to present an integration approach for a Christian counseling setting. Self psychology is based on the human context from a perspective of a psycho–social being but Christian human understanding is based on the human–divine context for a perspective of a spiritual being. Kohut gives a more concrete explanation about how healthy self–love is formed through the relationship with parents but neglects an aspect of object–love. Hoekema provides wider perspectives about threefold relationship with God, other people and about creation–corruption–redemption and emphasizes Jesus’self–sacrificial love. When self psychology is applied to a Christian counseling setting, Christian counselors should get well aware of the contribution and limitation of self psychology based on the similarity and difference between them. Therefore, the role of Christian counselors is considered important.