The purpose of this study is to understand what kind of parenting experience mothers are having as they cope with behavior–problems of children with autism and to reflect theologically what the mothers of children with autism find meaning. This study collected data though interviews with mothers that had more than)3 years of experience with children with autism and from the results of the study,)6 themes and 5 categories appeared. The parenting elements from coping with behavior problems, subjective management, solving problematic situations, coping emotion, contradicting mother–child relationships and diverse social relationships, and the experience of self–transformation were deducted. Through these 5 categories ‘Caring based on the maternal preoccupation’ were emerged. The mothers of children have a internal–parent approach that reflects subjective judgement and evaluation, overcomes stress, finds meaning in their child as a sacred being. Mothers re–interpret their own experience independently, resulting in self–transformation.